Teen ‘Hookup’ Culture, Prop 8, and our Bishop

I was thinking about the comments Bishop Martino had made at our holy hour this past weekend.  In particular what struck me was how he touched on the theology behind gender roles.  This had been a subject I was exploring a lot recently in light of the arguments in favor of women ‘priestesses’ boiling down to “Why not?”  More on that topic in a later post, but in thinking about what Bishop Martino spoke about in the context of yesterday’s post on Teen sexuality in society today, I remembered an op-ed at the New York Times about the ‘hook-up culture.’

Of note:

Under the old model, you dated a few times and, if you really liked the person, you might consider having sex. Under the new model, you hook up a few times and, if you really like the person, you might consider going on a date.
I asked her to explain the pros and cons of this strange culture. According to her, the pros are that hooking up emphasizes group friendships over the one-pair model of dating, and, therefore, removes the negative stigma from those who can’t get a date. As she put it, “It used to be that if you couldn’t get a date, you were a loser.” Now, she said, you just hang out with your friends and hope that something happens.
The cons center on the issues of gender inequity. Girls get tired of hooking up because they want it to lead to a relationship (the guys don’t), and, as they get older, they start to realize that it’s not a good way to find a spouse. Also, there’s an increased likelihood of sexual assaults because hooking up is often fueled by alcohol.

I think this ties into respect for the traditional definition of marriage. Obviously, there’s the age old argument at play of “Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free” but it goes much, much deeper.  As the secular culture falls further and further into the abyss of Relativism and glorifying the self, it becomes harder and harder to behave in a manner that recognizes the value of the other (let alone the self).  Without a stable family unit as the basis for societal stability, girls aren’t raised into women who know what it’s like to be treated with respect, dignity, and unconditional love from a man in their life.  Boys don’t learn how to properly treat women as partners, they don’t learn to appreciate ideals of self-sacrifice.  Without examples of mutual love and respect as seen from the perspective of each complimentary sex in a marriage, children do not learn that there is a place to find a loving, stable, and permanent relationship outside of the nihilistic relationships so many of their compatriots offer.

Do you remember back ten years ago when it would have been unthinkable to see two gay men kiss on TV?  Have you noticed since the Prop 8 fight that every television drama has a Gay couple on them now.  Characters who weren’t in any kind of relationship are all of a sudden in gay romances (Battlestar Galactica, I’m lookin at you!).  I’ve heard these laughingly referred to as ‘Bromances’ by the women around the office.  The agenda is to keep this focused as a civil rights issue and indoctrinate the young by keeping it in front of them so they perceive it as normal.

Preaching to choir by writing about it here, I know.  It’s just sad really, that opponents of Gay ‘marriage’ so often are left with arguments that only touch upon the religious dimension of marriage, when their opponents refuse to attribute any intellectual force to such an argument.  The societal damage done by the relativistic attitude is manifest in a wide number of ways, the editorial above just being one of them.  I dread the day when a ‘married’ or ‘civil unionized’  and ‘Catholic’ gay couple wants to enroll their child in my daughter’s Catholic Elementary.  I dread the day when the Gay marriage issue changes the laws of the US, so that in the schools textbooks casually refer to ‘all forms of the family.’  When that day comes, they will teach our children that the only criteria for having children is that you are in a loving, supportive and respectful relationship — even if it is with yourself.

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2 Comments on “Teen ‘Hookup’ Culture, Prop 8, and our Bishop”

  1. Walt Says:

    Good analysis, Christian. That’s why JP2’s “Theology of the Body” is so important – because it effectively presents the Truth about these issues. First, we need to understand it ourselves, so we can use it as we dialogue. Then, we need to live it in our own lives. Finally, we need to teach it to others (from teens through grandparents). If one can’t afford Christopher West’s CDs, it can be heard/downloaded free as presented by Fr John Riccardo at this site:

  2. jimmy tighe Says:

    May 18 1920 – April 2 2005 4 years since Pope John Paul II has left us. May he watch over his people where ever they may be. Pope John Paul II PRAY FOR US!!2

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